Relationship:
A Marriage Made in Heaven
Remember your first date with that
special someone?
You spent hours combing through your
wardrobe, fixing your hair, and making sure that the food and ambiance were
perfect. You staged the “event” like a producer would a Broadway show. Ah yes,
you may even have talked to the “big guy upstairs” to make sure that the
weather would be glorious.
The day finally approached . . . It
was a HUGE success. (BIG sigh.)
What was next? Anticipation (LOTS of
it) . . .
Your mind replayed every moment of
the date more times than reruns. “Did he have as good a time as I had?” “Should
I call her now or would it be too pushy?” “I didn’t say that, did I?” You
couldn’t seem to get him out of your head even if you tried, but who’s trying?
Thinking of her made your heart pound so loudly that you wondered if others
could hear it.
More dates. More laughs. More good
times. And then it finally happened . . . commitment.
“I, (bride/groom), take you
(groom/bride), to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day
forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in
health, to love and to cherish, from this day forward until death do us part.”
Upon reflection, it’s abundantly
clear that your entire world revolved around your partner during the courtship
phase of the relationship. Yet, as time passes, it’s not unusual for other
priorities to sneak in –– in fact, some folks may even take their spouse for
granted, or at least act that way. Whatever happened to “from this day forward
until death do us part”?
What
Makes Relationships Last?
Some basic elements of
a successful relationship include sharing common interests, communicating
on a regular basis, displaying appreciation and affection, embracing
intimacy, and showing real empathy. Honesty, trust, respect, and fidelity are
also critical ingredients. Importantly, while the presence of these factors
won’t necessarily enhance the relationship, because they’re expected, the
absence of any of these qualities can turn a marriage from “heavenly” to . . .
well, you know.
While best intentions are all well
and good, your daily actions form the foundation of any
successful relationship. As someone once said, “Watch your thoughts, for they
become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions,
for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny!” This logic also applies to
successful relationships. Actions become habits, which ultimately determine the
destiny of your relationship. Here are some positive actions worthy of your
consideration:
It’s about us. Be mindful that your focus
should shift from me to us and from mine to ours. That being said, it’s still
important to build a life together without surrendering your identity.
Be tolerant. Your spouse isn’t perfect.
(Neither are you.) Accept your spouse for who he or she is, rather than the
person you want him or her to be.
Communicate. Practice active listening,
thoughtful speaking, and constructive dialogue. Remember that silence and
attention can be forms of communication, too.
Compromise, compromise, compromise. Know what’s important to your
spouse. Keep your spouse’s needs in mind at all times and try to be
accommodating whenever possible.
Don’t keep score. Be prepared to go the extra
mile. Successful relationships don’t have a winner and a loser. You both win or
lose together.
Pull your weight. A relationship doesn’t require
a boss. Each participant should share responsibilities appropriately based on
the strengths and goals of each individual.
Manage life’s ups and downs. Adversity is inevitable. The
key is how you deal with it. First, acknowledge that your spouse has good
intentions. Second, focus your discussions on the issue –– without withdrawing,
hurling insults, or getting personal. Most importantly, be supportive when the
chips are down. As Oprah Winfrey once said, “Lots of people want to ride with
you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you
when the limo breaks down.”
Keep the romance alive. Find happiness simply being in
the presence of one another. As the years go by, build shared experiences and
find ways to add spice to your life. Never take the relationship for granted.
Make your relationship a
priority. Find balance
between work and family, acknowledging that both contribute to your happiness
and the strength of your relationship.
Grow older and wiser together. The most exciting part of a
long-standing relationship is the growth that you achieve together, building on
the promise of your marriage vows into fuller, more capable people joined
through love and shared commitment.
Shared beliefs and values form
the heart of every successful relationship and ultimately determine its
success. Some values can’t be measured in degrees. So, when someone has a
strong viewpoint, it’s often on either end of the spectrum –– black or white.
If any of your spouse’s viewpoints are the polar opposite of yours, that can
make your life together difficult. The key is to understand your spouse’s
viewpoint and agree on the best way to move forward, which may involve giving
it some additional time or enlisting the help of a trusted friend or counselor.
The alternative is sweeping the issue under the carpet and waiting till it
rears its ugly head. Some areas where good people may differ:
Family. Do you want to have children
or remain childless? Do you prefer to have a small or a large family?
Money matters. Are you a spender or a saver?
How much sacrifice are you willing to make today to ensure a bright future?
Risk. How much risk are you willing
to accept?
Faith. How much significance does
religion play in your life?
Togetherness. How much time do you need
alone or with the “guys” or “the girls”? How much time would you like to spend
with your spouse versus with other couples?
Change. Do you prefer the familiar or
relish change?
Roots. Are you open to moving to a
different town or do you prefer remaining close to friends and family?
Decisions. Do you believe “major”
decisions should be made individually or jointly?
Priorities. Do you strive for balance
between home and work?
Desires. Whose needs do you place
first, yours or your spouse’s?
There are very few things in life as
rewarding as having a soul mate. You’ll have someone who cheers you on to
greatness, provides a shoulder to cry on, and helps you conquer the world.
That’ll make celebrations more enjoyable and setbacks more bearable. Having a
soul mate will bring out the very best in you, making you the person you want
to be rather than the person you are. In fact, you’ll know your soul mate as
well as the person in the mirror. Over time, you’ll communicate with your soul
mate without even uttering a word. That’ll make it seem as though there’s no
challenge too large, no problem too insurmountable, and no dream unattainable
as long as you have your soul mate by your side.
Sure, every relationship requires
commitment and hard work. But it’s absolutely worth it! So, never stop courting
your spouse. And you’ll be among the lucky couples who live happily ever after.
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